“To Sacrifice, To Love” by Elina Goh

Client's Corner | 30 March 2010

Late submission via email

It started more than 3 years back when I first peeped through the kitchen and pretended to be making drinks when the group arrived. Scanning anxiously through the group to see whom is the lucky fella whom my friend Ami is supposed to be paired up with. I asked a friend close by who is the man? Which one? My friend pointed to a shiny bald headed man with a thick mustache, I laughed out loud uncontrollably and disturbed Ami who was beside me saying “ Ami, your future boyfriend is bald!!!!” followed with more hysterical laughter. I laughed till my sides ached and couldn’t laugh anymore.

Dino who was surprised to hear someone laughing and wondered what was the joke. He was then introduced to me by our pastor and friend, Edmund. We said our hellos while I winked cheekily at Ami. She was flushed and told me with her fingers cautioning me that she will pay her revenge and ask me to “Wait and Watch out.”

I came to know that Dino came from a notorious background with a really colorful record with the authorities. He didn’t even finish his form 3 and worked as a lorry driver when I first met him. Of course, there wasn’t much romantic chemistry between Ami and Dino and both ended up as good friends.

Ami’s wish was granted 2 years from the meeting where she became our MC on our wedding day told the exact story to the crowd and it created a row. Everyone laughed. Yes, I married the shiny bald headed guy and you can imagine Ami laughing at me for the longest time. Till today I still get tortured by her reminding me I ended up with Dino the Dinosaur, quoting me of course.

Prior to the wedding we received much opposition from my family who thinks I should marry a person with the same academic qualifications or better. Dino supported me through my Masters Degree not only emotionally, spiritually but also financially. My parents were mad with me and cut off my financial aid. Poison letters were sent to my house days before the wedding to tarnish Dino’s reputation further. To see the disappointment in my parents and their fear really breaks my heart. However, I know that this man is the one for me and I received much support from my spiritual family. They prayed and helped us through from the beginning to the end.

You might be thinking that I made the most sacrifice to marry the shiny bald headed guy. But I did not. I not only gain his unconditional for me and sacrifice his all to give me the best that he can. I know it’s me who was most blessed. Not even academic qualifications or looks or even financial status. It’s finding the purest love sent from heaven above.

p/s: Dino now has full grown long hair which he ties it into a pony tail and shaved off his facial hair. He doesn’t look 12 years my senior but looks pretty good.

“To Sacrifice, To Love” by Stephen Wong

Client's Corner | 19 March 2010

Submission via email

It’s all began at the Gynaes’ ultrasound monitor when I saw a tiny heartbeat in my wife’s uterus. We knew there and then that Almighty God had blessed us with something special to be brought to this wonderful world.

Months after months, this tiny heartbeat had grown to a tiny bean that was growing and growing ever so graciously. I still remembered our anxiousness and yet sheer excitement every time we went to the Gynae just to have a peek at “Little Bean” to reassure ourselves that she’s doing okay.

As we bought books and goggled the internet, eager to gather all the information and knowledge that we could lay our hands on to track her every development, baby Chermaine was equally enthusiastic trying to show her response through her tiny hand and feet movement, as though to tell her soon-to-be parents that she too was impatiently waiting to be born to our world.

Then came the BIG day when my wife had to endure a gruesome 18 hours labor before little healthy Chermaine decide to arrive to the world by an emergency C-section, tipping the scale at 3.52kg. I still remembered the moment the nurse handled her to my arms, she instantly stopped crying when I called her and when we first set eyes on each other, there was this special bond that was beyond description, as though she recognized her Daddy who was singing her nursery rhymes all along when she was still residing in Mommy’s stomach.

Times really fly when you are watching your little girl grow ever so quickly by the days. Chermaine is now soon to be celebrating her 1st birthday. All the fun that we had with Chermaine frankly makes me forget the sacrifices that we went through this 11-months journey, as we eagerly plans ahead for her childhood & future. We sacrificed our social life, adjusted our personal plan and schedule, re-prioritized our commitment. We did everything not because as a responsibility we had to, but because we WANT to, out of LOVE, coming from the deepest of our hearts.

Our tiny terrace house now resembles a tiny kinderland, stretching every square foot of space to provide Chermaine with her own playing space, her own napping area, her own changing room and even occupies a special spot in our cars, filled with all her favorite toys, just to bring comfort and security to little Chermaine whenever she goes.

Chermaine has grown to be extremely curious but yet very obedient and closed to us and even resembles my wife beauty day after day. No matter how tiring and frustrated we were at work, all the little gestures and funny faces that greets us at the doorstep never fails to melt our heart and threw all the unhappiness out of the window.

Honestly, we don’t at any moment felt or considered that we were making sacrifices, perhaps we were doing everything for the sake of Chermaine with such initiation, enthusiasm, so much joy and excitement and most importantly we did it all in the name of LOVE.

We are now busy preparing for little Chermaine 1st birthday themed “Clifford, friends & little Chermaine”.

P/s: She is a bit of a doggie freak as she loves dogs of all kinds, big and small.

I want to specially dedicate this message from the bottom of my heart to my dearest wife for all the love and patience she had given to me and blessed me with such a lovely princess. Of course not forgetting my gorgeous baby Chermaine – Daddy and Mommy have been and always will be there to cheer for you, care and love you, provide the best that we ever could for you and guide you, lift you every step to every greater success.

I’d like to use ALP’s winner gift to have another portrait session with my little princess and my wife as we really want to capture every moment and lock in all the fond memory of Chermaine growing up and we believe this will really be of sentimental value to us when we look back in time later.

“To Sacrifice, To Love” by Irene Lim-Jesuthasan

Client's Corner | 19 March 2010

This submission was done via her Facebook Note.

I see you lie there everyday,
Unable to get up,
Unable to move around freely,
Trapped in your own body,
As disease ravage your body,
I am filled with helplessness.

I remember the days past,
When you were robust, free and able,
When we use to laugh, cry and share,
But that was years ago,
These days you lie in bed filled with pain,
Relying on others for help.

The little things that I do,
The hope and prayers,
I know it’s all I can do now, all we can do now,
The sacrifices I make, is no sacrifice at all,
I do it with joy as you are my only sister,
I know that you may not have long on earth
but do any of us?
Our precious moments will be treasured forever.

What do I do if I win this?
I’m not too sure Asther. A photo of her two girls with her and her husband? Of course it must be done indoors :-) at her place.